Comments on: Swinging In On A Rope, Possibly Wearing Tights http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/03/19/swinging-in-on-a-rope-possibly-wearing-tights/ Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:04:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: maymay http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/03/19/swinging-in-on-a-rope-possibly-wearing-tights/comment-page-1/#comment-6 maymay Sat, 02 Jun 2007 12:26:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/03/19/swinging-in-on-a-rope-possibly-wearing-tights/#comment-6 Not only that, but let's also give an actual definition to the word power instead of treating it as some standard thing, because it's not. What does masculine power mean as opposed to feminine power? Also, what about submissive power? There is that, too, methinks. Not only that, but let’s also give an actual definition to the word power instead of treating it as some standard thing, because it’s not. What does masculine power mean as opposed to feminine power? Also, what about submissive power? There is that, too, methinks.

]]> By: Eileen http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/03/19/swinging-in-on-a-rope-possibly-wearing-tights/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Eileen Sat, 02 Jun 2007 03:47:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/03/19/swinging-in-on-a-rope-possibly-wearing-tights/#comment-5 Jon,<br/>Thanks for the comment!<br/>The broad answer to your comment is "Not really," while the actual,<br/>proper answer is much to long to couch in a simple comment. Although<br/>we've both been saturated with the commom male=power/female=powerless<br/>idiom that's still going strong in common culture, we both view gender<br/>as incredibly fluid, and tend to assign power dynamics to ourselves<br/>because of our instincts and needs. I personally find the idea of<br/>taking on a false, "acted out" role in my relationships abhorrent. He<br/>isn't feminine *because* he submits. He is both feminine *and*<br/>submissive, two separate parts of his personality that sometimes meld<br/>together, and both of which I find attractive.<br/>Personally I find that thinking of women as "pretty, dainty and weak"<br/>is flat out bullshit. Except for the pretty part. Jon,
Thanks for the comment!
The broad answer to your comment is “Not really,” while the actual,
proper answer is much to long to couch in a simple comment. Although
we’ve both been saturated with the commom male=power/female=powerless
idiom that’s still going strong in common culture, we both view gender
as incredibly fluid, and tend to assign power dynamics to ourselves
because of our instincts and needs. I personally find the idea of
taking on a false, “acted out” role in my relationships abhorrent. He
isn’t feminine *because* he submits. He is both feminine *and*
submissive, two separate parts of his personality that sometimes meld
together, and both of which I find attractive.
Personally I find that thinking of women as “pretty, dainty and weak”
is flat out bullshit. Except for the pretty part.

]]> By: jonnieoh http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/03/19/swinging-in-on-a-rope-possibly-wearing-tights/comment-page-1/#comment-4 jonnieoh Fri, 01 Jun 2007 18:59:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/03/19/swinging-in-on-a-rope-possibly-wearing-tights/#comment-4 Hey Maid Marion,<br/>you want your sub to be masculine?<br/>Maybe you need to re-train his thinking about what constitutes authority and submission? Does he seems to be stuck with Male (and everything about it) = dominant & power while Female (and all things traditionally associated with it) = pretty, dainty & weak. Is that why he is submitting by cooking and such?<br/>The woman I love and am totally submitted to is very feminine and loves my masculinity (no strap-on dildos here). She loves my physical strength and my submission of it to her whim (without the use of a whip either).<br/>I think a dominant / submissive relationship is best when it starts with the healthy mental state and then is lived out not just "acted" out.<br/><br/>my 2cents<br/>jon Hey Maid Marion,
you want your sub to be masculine?
Maybe you need to re-train his thinking about what constitutes authority and submission? Does he seems to be stuck with Male (and everything about it) = dominant & power while Female (and all things traditionally associated with it) = pretty, dainty & weak. Is that why he is submitting by cooking and such?
The woman I love and am totally submitted to is very feminine and loves my masculinity (no strap-on dildos here). She loves my physical strength and my submission of it to her whim (without the use of a whip either).
I think a dominant / submissive relationship is best when it starts with the healthy mental state and then is lived out not just “acted” out.

my 2cents
jon

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