Comments on: The Most Subversive Post I Have Ever Written http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/ Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:04:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › Broadcasting Live From Sydney http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-1258 A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › Broadcasting Live From Sydney Tue, 04 Mar 2008 12:07:46 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-1258 [...] Sydney’s Mardi Gras and queer spaces and the visual representations of gender and power (again.) Also about the last play party in New York, the flesh and the screams and the sock monkey [...] [...] Sydney’s Mardi Gras and queer spaces and the visual representations of gender and power (again.) Also about the last play party in New York, the flesh and the screams and the sock monkey [...]

]]> By: almost http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-550 almost Sun, 23 Sep 2007 04:03:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-550 I have blue hair. For the most part I'm treated exactly the same, or more positively, than if it were brown. Of course, I'm not very positively perceived to begin with, being fat and all, and not likely to be seen in business suits and tailored clothes. But still. <br/><br/>It's been an intersting experiment. I'd be very curious to hear from someone who was otherwise "normal" and then dyed their hair some fun color. I have blue hair. For the most part I’m treated exactly the same, or more positively, than if it were brown. Of course, I’m not very positively perceived to begin with, being fat and all, and not likely to be seen in business suits and tailored clothes. But still.

It’s been an intersting experiment. I’d be very curious to hear from someone who was otherwise “normal” and then dyed their hair some fun color.

]]> By: Eileen http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-518 Eileen Wed, 19 Sep 2007 17:20:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-518 Juliet-<br/><br/>I am fairly sure I could pass off blue hair with confidence and a nice wardrobe, in most situations. I have been dying my hair shades of red and orange for a long time (although it's brown again now) and have always liked being able to carry off the juxtaposition between bright red hair and a nice business suit. But unfortunately, my current job has specifically said no. This, I find very silly.<br/><br/>I like seeing what I can get away with here. Long extravagant skirts and spiked hair, so far, have cause not a ripple.<br/><br/>And also, a lot of this chameleon-like adjustment of personal appearance just doesn't work for me without confidence. Juliet-

I am fairly sure I could pass off blue hair with confidence and a nice wardrobe, in most situations. I have been dying my hair shades of red and orange for a long time (although it’s brown again now) and have always liked being able to carry off the juxtaposition between bright red hair and a nice business suit. But unfortunately, my current job has specifically said no. This, I find very silly.

I like seeing what I can get away with here. Long extravagant skirts and spiked hair, so far, have cause not a ripple.

And also, a lot of this chameleon-like adjustment of personal appearance just doesn’t work for me without confidence.

]]> By: Juliet http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-510 Juliet Wed, 19 Sep 2007 13:27:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-510 I have blue hair :) It isn't a problem at my work; otoh if I were interviewing again I'd probably dye it back to something normal. <br/><br/>(I also have an eyebrow piercing, which is in fact much more unobtrusive than you'd think - even my parents agree that this is true. I figure I can probably, when interviewing again, get away with one or the other, but not both...)<br/><br/>But yes, the way you present yourself does affect how you're taken. I can get away with pretty much whatever I like looks & clothing-wise at my work primarily because I have respect from what I actually *do* there. <br/><br/>What I have discovered from the 3 yrs or so I've been dying my hair peculiar colours is that there are also ways around this. If I dress more soberly, or carry myself in particular ways, I can get past the hair colour. (It also helps that I live in a large city where such things aren't as uncommon.) <br/><br/>The extent to which your *projection* of yourself - I mean, your internal choice of projection, not just the outward image you actually have - has an effect is really interesting. Give off confidence and you can get away with a hell of a lot. I have blue hair :) It isn’t a problem at my work; otoh if I were interviewing again I’d probably dye it back to something normal.

(I also have an eyebrow piercing, which is in fact much more unobtrusive than you’d think – even my parents agree that this is true. I figure I can probably, when interviewing again, get away with one or the other, but not both…)

But yes, the way you present yourself does affect how you’re taken. I can get away with pretty much whatever I like looks & clothing-wise at my work primarily because I have respect from what I actually *do* there.

What I have discovered from the 3 yrs or so I’ve been dying my hair peculiar colours is that there are also ways around this. If I dress more soberly, or carry myself in particular ways, I can get past the hair colour. (It also helps that I live in a large city where such things aren’t as uncommon.)

The extent to which your *projection* of yourself – I mean, your internal choice of projection, not just the outward image you actually have – has an effect is really interesting. Give off confidence and you can get away with a hell of a lot.

]]> By: Patty http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-509 Patty Wed, 19 Sep 2007 09:58:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-509 Some things are becoming more acceptable in mainstrem culture. Look at tattoos, once only gotten by sailors and felons. Now there are tv shows about normal people getting them. <br/><br/>As for blue hair, if it is something you have always done, it is usually accepted as a personal quirk. If you suddenly change your hair color it is a shock, just as any sudden change in wardrobe would be. Some things are becoming more acceptable in mainstrem culture. Look at tattoos, once only gotten by sailors and felons. Now there are tv shows about normal people getting them.

As for blue hair, if it is something you have always done, it is usually accepted as a personal quirk. If you suddenly change your hair color it is a shock, just as any sudden change in wardrobe would be.

]]> By: Dw3t-Hthr http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-508 Dw3t-Hthr Wed, 19 Sep 2007 04:32:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-508 <i>At least, enough peace that I don't get too, too steamed when I am told by my office that I'm not allowed to dye my hair an unnatural color.</i><br/><br/>Currently in major service mode: not putting the green streak back in my hair until Sunday evening. Not putting the green streak back in my hair until Sunday evening. Not putting ...<br/><br/>He's getting married on Sunday. If I show up with a green streak in my hair, in five years his mother will <i>still</i> be fuming about how I ruined his wedding. At least, enough peace that I don’t get too, too steamed when I am told by my office that I’m not allowed to dye my hair an unnatural color.

Currently in major service mode: not putting the green streak back in my hair until Sunday evening. Not putting the green streak back in my hair until Sunday evening. Not putting …

He’s getting married on Sunday. If I show up with a green streak in my hair, in five years his mother will still be fuming about how I ruined his wedding.

]]> By: Týr http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-506 Týr Wed, 19 Sep 2007 01:39:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-506 My boss thinks I should be wearing business clothes (a suit & tie) whenever I go to a construction site so that I get respect. I feel like I should wear something like jeans and a shirt, because I would like to look as not-out-of-place as possible. My boss thinks I should be wearing business clothes (a suit & tie) whenever I go to a construction site so that I get respect. I feel like I should wear something like jeans and a shirt, because I would like to look as not-out-of-place as possible.

]]> By: Richard http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-505 Richard Tue, 18 Sep 2007 22:22:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-505 You mean like being attractive and smart? Smart may not seem like an external but it is in the right context. (Aside from giving you the ability to better use your externals. ) You mean like being attractive and smart? Smart may not seem like an external but it is in the right context. (Aside from giving you the ability to better use your externals. )

]]> By: Eileen http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-504 Eileen Tue, 18 Sep 2007 21:43:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-504 Richard -<br/><br/>What I did not get into in this post, although I might attempt to revisit it at some point (very tricky topic) is the question of specific externals and the advantages therein.<br/><br/>I have a lot of advantages. A lot of them I was born with, or born into. And it's very, very hard to talk about how I might use them, or how they might affect my life, without (frankly) sounding like a brat. Richard -

What I did not get into in this post, although I might attempt to revisit it at some point (very tricky topic) is the question of specific externals and the advantages therein.

I have a lot of advantages. A lot of them I was born with, or born into. And it’s very, very hard to talk about how I might use them, or how they might affect my life, without (frankly) sounding like a brat.

]]> By: Eileen http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/comment-page-1/#comment-503 Eileen Tue, 18 Sep 2007 21:38:00 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/2007/09/18/the-most-subversive-post-i-have-ever-written/#comment-503 Tom -<br/><br/>Okay, maybe.<br/><br/>But what if you had a candidate who could spell correctly, present and articulate themselves professionally, but with blue hair?<br/><br/>See, I can spell, be articulate, deal with people, and present myself professionally. I have marketable skills, and I'm good at my job. But I can't dye my hair back and forth as simply as taking out an earring.<br/><br/>(I'm stuck on the hair color thing recently, you'll have to forgive me.)<br/><br/>Also, I would not use you as an example of unconscious prejudice. Just a general feeling I have. Tom -

Okay, maybe.

But what if you had a candidate who could spell correctly, present and articulate themselves professionally, but with blue hair?

See, I can spell, be articulate, deal with people, and present myself professionally. I have marketable skills, and I’m good at my job. But I can’t dye my hair back and forth as simply as taking out an earring.

(I’m stuck on the hair color thing recently, you’ll have to forgive me.)

Also, I would not use you as an example of unconscious prejudice. Just a general feeling I have.

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