Comments on: Rocket Man

By: A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › 1. And, Go!

A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › 1. And, Go! — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 16:47:52 +0000

[...] than give you another list of things I’m thinking about, as I am wont to do when my personal life eats me like an enormous [...]

By: A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › Fin

A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › Fin — Wed, 02 Jan 2008 21:14:15 +0000

[...] spent eight days visiting family members during the Christmas holidays. I had enormous trouble organizing my thoughts while I was there. Much of my time with my family was nourishing, and content. I enjoyed Christmas. [...]

By: SJ

SJ — Mon, 31 Dec 2007 17:47:37 +0000

I do what I can. :-)

By: Victor

Victor — Mon, 31 Dec 2007 05:33:45 +0000

I am going to second maymay on that. SJ, that is a great analogy.

By: maymay

maymay — Sun, 30 Dec 2007 09:25:37 +0000

Compartmentalization is what keeps a ship at see afloat if part of the hull is compromised or breached. It’s both part of ship design, and an emergency safety feature.

That is such a great analogy. Thanks, SJ!

By: Sharon

Sharon — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 01:38:35 +0000

Hi. I’ve only recently stumbled on your blog, and I’m not even into BDSM. But because I started reading you right before your awful experience, I was touched by your situation. Personally, I think you ought to follow a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy with your family. And cut this visit short. But I have avoidant personality disorder and am biased in favor of “cut and run” ;).

By: SJ

SJ — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 23:59:54 +0000

Compartmentalization is what keeps a ship at see afloat if part of the hull is compromised or breached. It’s both part of ship design, and an emergency safety feature. It can work if the damage is not too widespread, and the compartment dividers hold.

However, in the event that compartmentalization saves the ship, inevitably the ship will need drydock time to repair. It’s not a sole or lasting solution.

Good luck with your family and with the conversations you plan to force. Would that I had more or better help to give, but I’m pretty deeply closeted myself, esp. when it comes to my genetic relatives.

By: Tom Allen

Tom Allen — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 21:06:12 +0000

Sh*t- did I really write “hear”? Must be karma – I just flamed somebody else for doing the exact same thing. :-\

I wasn’t being flippant. It’s very difficult to manage that part of us that we feel special about, be it sex or pottery collecting or whatever; to define and delineate those parts of us that we’ve nurtured and cultivated, and to decide how much of them to integrate into other aspects of our lives.

By: Eileen

Eileen — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 19:40:41 +0000

Thanks for the comments, guys. E, I think you and I have similar views of how we present ourselves to the people in our life. Tom, I’ll get right on that mission. Check back in in a decade or so. Sara, I think I should clarify that I don’t actually consider compartmentalization to be *bad.* And definitely not synonymous with stress. As for the conversation, well . . . we’ll see.

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 19:07:03 +0000

I hope that rather than having to continue to compartmentalize and stress, this potential forced conversation can become a beautiful learning experience for both you and your family member.

Good luck.