Comments on: Friday Night And Sweet White Wine

By: Juliet

Juliet — Tue, 20 May 2008 20:02:22 +0000

Oh, do I not know that feeling.

Dammit, & I’m home alone tonight.

By: Eileen

Eileen — Tue, 20 May 2008 05:21:58 +0000

Tom, I distinctly hope that that story is untrue. If it is true, I’d want a few more details on what actually happened before passing it off as a casual example of dominant lust and not one of potential sexual assault.

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By: Goose

Goose — Mon, 19 May 2008 02:40:05 +0000

Hell yes. Want desire play yearn. Who cares what camp it lies in. Make your own rules and enjoy them.

By: Dw3t-Hthr

Dw3t-Hthr — Sun, 18 May 2008 23:58:14 +0000

Hah. I was just telling my liege last night that the thing that really gets me about his choice to exert control is the way that it communicates *want*. And how delicious it is to be desired like that ….

By: Tom Allen

Tom Allen — Sat, 17 May 2008 02:57:09 +0000

Wow, Eileen – you’ve almost made me want to bite May, as well!

Years ago I read a supposedly true tale on a message board about a prodomme who found one of her clients so hot ‘n’ hunky that she handcuffed him to a bench and went orally crazy on him, eventually ending by making him climax through oral. She apologized to him later, explaining that she found him so attractive that she just decided to do things her way. He was surprised and a bit overwhelmed; he was one of those guys who was convinced that dom women never indulge in their oral fixations, and that oral “worship” was an inherently submissive act.

Go for it, and then tell us where you’ve posted the video.

By: Alexis

Alexis — Fri, 16 May 2008 23:25:09 +0000

I don’t understand that there is a paradox. Is dominance not the lust for power? Does not power entail possession, of things, of people? Does not possession entail desire?

Can it not be flatly understood that Catherine of Russia wanted the throne? That Zenobia wanted Egypt? That Mary wanted Scotland? That Elizabeth WANTED Mary dead?

What a stupid generalization, to bandy up some ridiculous nurturing sacrificial motif onto the hungry, slavering appetite of a dominant woman. Who created this generalization? Mrs. Grundy?

(See Thomas Morton’s play, Speed the Plow)

For the sake of every power-mad desirous man-flesh owner, Eileen…please WANT everything you could possibly want.

By: Dov

Dov — Fri, 16 May 2008 17:44:59 +0000

LOl he’s a Maymaysicle!

By: Rona

Rona — Fri, 16 May 2008 14:56:14 +0000

And also, why shouldn’t dominant women want? Is that just some weird extension of the fact that _women_ as a gender shouldn’t want? Submissive women aren’t supposed to want either. They’re supposed to need to be taken advantage of. It’s what May is always talking about with the chastity/sex dynamic when you compare male and female submission. The idea that men want too much and have to be controlled whereas women don’t want enough and have to be taken. I cry bullshit. There are certainly women who don’t feel that sort of wanting, but there are men like that too. And then there are women who want constantly, just like the stereotype of a man. Dominant men are supposed to be wanting and taking all the time. Stupid gender based stereotypes for kink roles that should have nothing to do with gender and yet have been utterly corrupted by conventional morals. Part of the advantage of being kinky is that we should be free from some of those out of date gender role expectations, rather than simply further enslaved by them.

By: Rona

Rona — Fri, 16 May 2008 14:51:10 +0000

All I can say is that it would be a shame to be so caught up in your vision of your dominant/submissive dynamic to not be able to take advantage of your insanely beautiful boy when you want to (and he wants to).