Comments on: How To Write Porn For Me http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/ Sun, 01 Nov 2009 06:41:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: blouxster http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-5426 blouxster Wed, 22 Jul 2009 00:05:19 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-5426 I thought maybe I was getting in on the tail end of this, then I saw the comments were from May LAST year; a tad much to say I'm fashionably late? I found your thoughts very interesting, as well as those of the commenters. One of them had advised me previously that strong, interesting female characters were the way to go. Now inside the sub's head is the place to be. I suppose those recommendations are not contradictory. It is a direction to consider. (Short, declarative sentences, said Hemingway.) What makes me roll my eyes is the stuff that takes itself so damned seriously - I write smut. I like to think it's quality smut (if you check my little notch of the Internet, you may not agree, but you should see the stuff I don't post - blech.) I think I turned the corner when I realized I should try to write actual stories as opposed to just semi-coherent versions of masturbatory fantasies. I find it helps with my 'real' writing, although I produce about ten times as many femdom pages than anything else. Go figure. I regret not finding this blog while you were actively working it; I like your perspective. If you do stop by my place, I hope you'll leave a quick note. I thought maybe I was getting in on the tail end of this, then I saw the comments were from May LAST year; a tad much to say I’m fashionably late?
I found your thoughts very interesting, as well as those of the commenters. One of them had advised me previously that strong, interesting female characters were the way to go. Now inside the sub’s head is the place to be. I suppose those recommendations are not contradictory. It is a direction to consider. (Short, declarative sentences, said Hemingway.)
What makes me roll my eyes is the stuff that takes itself so damned seriously – I write smut. I like to think it’s quality smut (if you check my little notch of the Internet, you may not agree, but you should see the stuff I don’t post – blech.) I think I turned the corner when I realized I should try to write actual stories as opposed to just semi-coherent versions of masturbatory fantasies. I find it helps with my ‘real’ writing, although I produce about ten times as many femdom pages than anything else. Go figure.
I regret not finding this blog while you were actively working it; I like your perspective. If you do stop by my place, I hope you’ll leave a quick note.

]]> By: Eye Candy: ART « Pretty in Kink http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2498 Eye Candy: ART « Pretty in Kink Wed, 26 Nov 2008 19:48:40 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-2498 [...] at this dirty stuff leads to focus on the woman. I have a dream that all of the rantings around the interwebs will inspire the porn makers to re-evaluate this [...] [...] at this dirty stuff leads to focus on the woman. I have a dream that all of the rantings around the interwebs will inspire the porn makers to re-evaluate this [...]

]]> By: Several Reasons I Dig the Idea of Service « beyond the hills http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2309 Several Reasons I Dig the Idea of Service « beyond the hills Fri, 31 Oct 2008 02:29:56 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-2309 [...] 5. I think service also includes being my ultra-portable table, ottoman, or chair while I read. [...] [...] 5. I think service also includes being my ultra-portable table, ottoman, or chair while I read. [...]

]]> By: Eileen http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1537 Eileen Thu, 05 Jun 2008 16:36:43 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-1537 Kyle! I have! Twice. I have clearly failed to give you feedback, however. I am sincerely sorry for that. Kyle!

I have! Twice. I have clearly failed to give you feedback, however. I am sincerely sorry for that.

]]> By: Kyle http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1533 Kyle Tue, 03 Jun 2008 20:45:52 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-1533 ...have you read mine yet, love? …have you read mine yet, love?

]]> By: Fluence http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1528 Fluence Mon, 02 Jun 2008 00:13:28 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-1528 I wish I had time to write all the porn I have in my head, for fun mostly but also 'cos I could do with some practice. When I started writing (fortunately way before I found my way online) I focused on the dominant because that's what my fantasies were like: his eyes, his voice, his touch. It didn't really work, probably because I made him my, well, my fantasy and therefore too 'perfect'. Now I tend to concentrate on the submissive's POV, and generally prefer to read that kind of thing too. I did try writing from inside a dominant boy's head when I started my site, but he just ended up switching! Perhaps if I get a bit more confident I'll mix it up a bit, I think there's scope for conflict in the top as well as the bottom, you just need to find the right balance between self-loathing (difficult to make sexy) and over-confidence (difficult to make good narrative out of). I wish I had time to write all the porn I have in my head, for fun mostly but also ‘cos I could do with some practice. When I started writing (fortunately way before I found my way online) I focused on the dominant because that’s what my fantasies were like: his eyes, his voice, his touch. It didn’t really work, probably because I made him my, well, my fantasy and therefore too ‘perfect’. Now I tend to concentrate on the submissive’s POV, and generally prefer to read that kind of thing too.

I did try writing from inside a dominant boy’s head when I started my site, but he just ended up switching! Perhaps if I get a bit more confident I’ll mix it up a bit, I think there’s scope for conflict in the top as well as the bottom, you just need to find the right balance between self-loathing (difficult to make sexy) and over-confidence (difficult to make good narrative out of).

]]> By: QueSera http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1526 QueSera Sat, 31 May 2008 13:24:11 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-1526 I have never written erotica/porn for public consumption, but I seem to have been following Eileen's rules about it since my teens. That was when my favoritest fantasies started getting too long to remember, so I had to write them somewhere. The perspective is/was always from the male bottom's point of view. They have never included my orgasm*. They are chock full of great kinks (mine!). And as a bonus, they are well written and very well edited. OK, that's my opinion on the well written part. But I do get paid big money to write well, so others at least agree that I can. And if I can, why waste it all on professional reports? One reason my own stories never fail me and others often do, is I base them on real people I have known, often from older childhood. That way I have all that background that is so hard to describe. I know each of their basic personalities and histories. Then I can make up how they turned out as adults-- i.e., submissive, having certain kinks, etc. The psychological conflicts created in the submissive person are a large part of the turn on for me, so the more I understand why a certain character has the reactions and feelings he/she does, the better. It's so hard to convey all that without going in to flashback chapters and the like. I too never encountered these kind of female-dominant, in the head of the submissive, hot sexy stories, anywhere, and never expected to. Twenty five years later..... omg, starting to find them on the internet. *ok, one story does include reference to my orgasm, but not a description. It is a piece entirely in the head of the submissive person, having a recurring fantasy. In one segment of the fantasy, he imagines/recalls a scene in which he is tightly bound and being edged in a highly objectified manner. Part of that is being used for intercourse, but in such a way that I have an orgasm and he doesn't. There is absolutely no description of my experience of it, just that it happens. Yeah, convoluted. Whatever. (goes back to reading convoluted....) I have never written erotica/porn for public consumption, but I seem to have been following Eileen’s rules about it since my teens. That was when my favoritest fantasies started getting too long to remember, so I had to write them somewhere.

The perspective is/was always from the male bottom’s point of view. They have never included my orgasm*. They are chock full of great kinks (mine!). And as a bonus, they are well written and very well edited. OK, that’s my opinion on the well written part. But I do get paid big money to write well, so others at least agree that I can. And if I can, why waste it all on professional reports?

One reason my own stories never fail me and others often do, is I base them on real people I have known, often from older childhood. That way I have all that background that is so hard to describe. I know each of their basic personalities and histories. Then I can make up how they turned out as adults– i.e., submissive, having certain kinks, etc. The psychological conflicts created in the submissive person are a large part of the turn on for me, so the more I understand why a certain character has the reactions and feelings he/she does, the better. It’s so hard to convey all that without going in to flashback chapters and the like.

I too never encountered these kind of female-dominant, in the head of the submissive, hot sexy stories, anywhere, and never expected to. Twenty five years later….. omg, starting to find them on the internet.

*ok, one story does include reference to my orgasm, but not a description. It is a piece entirely in the head of the submissive person, having a recurring fantasy. In one segment of the fantasy, he imagines/recalls a scene in which he is tightly bound and being edged in a highly objectified manner. Part of that is being used for intercourse, but in such a way that I have an orgasm and he doesn’t. There is absolutely no description of my experience of it, just that it happens.

Yeah, convoluted. Whatever.

(goes back to reading convoluted….)

]]> By: samantha http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1524 samantha Tue, 27 May 2008 03:24:49 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-1524 hey i have started my own porn i am 17 and i wrote a short story for my bf once and i wrote it down and showed it around to some friends they liked it so i wrote a nother and now i'm on my 3rd short story e mail me if u would love to take a look and i can send u the link Sam hey
i have started my own porn
i am 17 and i wrote a short story for my bf once and i wrote it down and showed it around to some friends
they liked it so i wrote a nother
and now i’m on my 3rd short story
e mail me if u would love to take a look and i can send u the link

Sam

]]> By: maymay http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1523 maymay Mon, 26 May 2008 14:03:02 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-1523 <blockquote>I don’t know that bottoming is inherently more interesting…</blockquote> Oh come on. The bottom's totally more interesting, especially when that bottom is me. What…? Too toppy?

I don’t know that bottoming is inherently more interesting…

Oh come on. The bottom’s totally more interesting, especially when that bottom is me.

What…? Too toppy?

]]> By: Elizabeth http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/05/21/how-to-write-porn-for-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1522 Elizabeth Mon, 26 May 2008 13:36:36 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=126#comment-1522 @ Vague - only exactly, *conflict*. And conflict is missing from just about all garden variety internet porn. Conflict has teh sexay, especially if your turn on happens to be power dynamics. I've heard some people are turned on by that. @ Tom - the bottom perspective is "more" interesting to me because I'm bent to enjoy those reactions, but it's rare to read a story where the top is interesting at all. See Vague's stick plot line. Eileen - Hijack? I demand a parachute and $200,000 in unmarked bills before I leave this comment thread. signed, D.B. Elizabeth What you are saying isn't exactly *news*, but it is still pretty darn new. It was a revelation the first time I ever had the conversation with Beej, what a little over a year ago, that any other woman on the planet had the same reactions that I did. Plus, I would really like some more porn, whatever it takes. i can haz pr0n 2? @ Vague – only exactly, *conflict*. And conflict is missing from just about all garden variety internet porn. Conflict has teh sexay, especially if your turn on happens to be power dynamics. I’ve heard some people are turned on by that.

@ Tom – the bottom perspective is “more” interesting to me because I’m bent to enjoy those reactions, but it’s rare to read a story where the top is interesting at all. See Vague’s stick plot line.

Eileen -

Hijack? I demand a parachute and $200,000 in unmarked bills before I leave this comment thread. signed, D.B. Elizabeth

What you are saying isn’t exactly *news*, but it is still pretty darn new. It was a revelation the first time I ever had the conversation with Beej, what a little over a year ago, that any other woman on the planet had the same reactions that I did.

Plus, I would really like some more porn, whatever it takes. i can haz pr0n 2?

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