On the D/s spectrum, I’ve also wondered if people think I handle our schedule because I’m submissive and it’s a service. And it’s nothing of the kind – I’m the scheduler because I’m responsive and good at organizing, and it’s part of the way we construct our relationship based on who likes to do what and who’s better at what.

BTW, your hair is amazing! I wish soooo badly I could fuzz it up good. *^_~*

Potentially? Although honestly, I’m not a scheduler. May is a scheduler. We don’t fit many of those gendered social tendencies. Although I realize no one would actually know that. You and Goose and Jade all bring up good mitigating factors, which make sense on a case-to-case basis but don’t really make sense when faced with the consistency with which May and I encounter this series of events.

Jade-
No, actually. I don’t think you even had my contact info. No worries!

I get the “complex conversation” thing, but I don’t find that those first few “hello, how are you” emails really fall into that range. Also, sometimes we do have complex email conversations that only make back it to me, even when I Cc Maymay on my responses over and over. (Reply All on the fritz again.)

Goose-
While it makes sense to contact a person who volunteers to take on arranging something, I commonly don’t volunteer. (Again with Maymay being the “scheduler” of the two of us.) I opt for always Ccing invitations when I have the info. I admit, I didn’t used to do that, but this little annoyance has made me much more aware of email etiquette.
I get the want to reach out to someone you have a stronger connection with. Perhaps it’s a case-to-case thing, when that happens?

But I am usually preternaturally sensitive to social issues. Though I do fuck up on occasion.

As to why, I’m not sure. I guess I just am used to one-on-one conversations – when it’s a single email invite, I’ll default to emailing multiple people but when it’s more complex or a conversation i just usually fall into the paradigm of “pick one person”. Hm.