Comments on: 47. Annoyance http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/07/26/47-annoyance/ Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:04:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › Dating Guidelines http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/07/26/47-annoyance/comment-page-1/#comment-1946 A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › Dating Guidelines Sat, 06 Sep 2008 12:19:43 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=224#comment-1946 [...] from professional) value from any social networking site, mostly because I end up being more annoyed than [...] [...] from professional) value from any social networking site, mostly because I end up being more annoyed than [...]

]]> By: Sophiste http://bloodylaughter.com/2008/07/26/47-annoyance/comment-page-1/#comment-1801 Sophiste Fri, 25 Jul 2008 19:33:55 +0000 http://bloodylaughter.com/?p=224#comment-1801 I wonder whether you've drawn on your annoyed, demanding, overbearing, wry, catty self as a sort of "dominance goad." When I was first getting into dominating men, I found it a little difficult to find modes of expression of dominance over men that seemed genuine and organic for me, less like putting on a new character or imitating a model, and less like exporting my F/f relationship style wholesale to people who didn't respond like my female partners had. Then I realized that I was accustomed to being critical of men and demanding toward them in nonsexual situations,* and so I drew on that. When I adopted those behaviors in play and service, it worked very well, because I was essentially imitating *me*. *Not critical or demanding toward men exceptionally as a gender, you understand. I was comfortable as a critic of both genders, but by this time I was already okay with dominating women, and less okay with expressing dominance over men. Patriarchy and all that, and irritation with the poor fit I found with some models of F/m. Good grief; I've put a footnote in a blog comment. I wonder whether you’ve drawn on your annoyed, demanding, overbearing, wry, catty self as a sort of “dominance goad.” When I was first getting into dominating men, I found it a little difficult to find modes of expression of dominance over men that seemed genuine and organic for me, less like putting on a new character or imitating a model, and less like exporting my F/f relationship style wholesale to people who didn’t respond like my female partners had. Then I realized that I was accustomed to being critical of men and demanding toward them in nonsexual situations,* and so I drew on that. When I adopted those behaviors in play and service, it worked very well, because I was essentially imitating *me*.

*Not critical or demanding toward men exceptionally as a gender, you understand. I was comfortable as a critic of both genders, but by this time I was already okay with dominating women, and less okay with expressing dominance over men. Patriarchy and all that, and irritation with the poor fit I found with some models of F/m. Good grief; I’ve put a footnote in a blog comment.

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