Had a comment on my last post. The post sort of jumped the track of my wandering narrative. The question was, how do Maymay and I strike a healthy balance in our relationship?
We pay attention, and we talk a lot. We identify issues and do the work we think is best to solve them. And really, I think that’s it.
There is an idea that having a healthy relationship depends, in some way, upon finding the “right person,” but I’m not sure that’s true. I have had many healthy relationships in the past, and have many at the moment. I have even had relationships end in healthy ways. In every case, they were the right person for me at that time, for whatever it was we were doing.
And then, every relationship I’ve ever been in that was hurtful or unhealthy had issues stemming from problems in communication. Perhaps that’s why I’m so obsessed. And, perhaps that’s why I’m so neurotic, and why the self-awareness tag in this blog keeps growing.
And as for whether Maymay is the “right” person for me, right now, he is. And he continues to be, in a way I’ve never seen before. We are suited to each other in the long term, which is why we’re pushing four years together and we’re still talking, every single day.
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You are like the wind today with your words…or maybe seasons..and I find myself feeling saddened by your words..like love and passion must always fade. We are destined to become like an old sneaker to those we love… and yes I am reading too much into your post and these are my fears manifested from your words…did I pull manifested off?
Key takeaway:
@maymaym agreed. that is key.
Totaltotaltotal agreement here.
Jack and I aren’t perfect. Not nearly.
Not even perfect for each other.
Hells, sometimes I think we’re the worst-suited couple in the UNIVERSE.
BUT (and there’s ALWAYS a but) we talk constantly. More than any 3 “normal” couples. I randomly check in with him: Hey, love, everything okay in your head? I check in after either of us plays, he asks me what’s up in my head if I’m quiet for a while (a rarity!).
And the key takeaway, as MayMay put it? We talk about how the situation is bothering us (when it is), and how to fix it- NOT what the other did wrong.
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